Guilt where every you go

My life as a parent is new territory.  I've only been one for just over a year whereas my single life went on for 20 years.  It's still a hefty part of my life and about half of that, in my 30's, was a busy time in the media for guilting you as a single person.  You were selfish, doing the wrong things, not trying hard enough, too fussy, too career, too anything to have a proper real relationship.  Wasn't the goal to be partnered and parented?

Now I'm here (this mythical place of serenity and accomplishment) the guilt has followed me.  Pregnancy and now parenting is full of the same tone of media article but now it's my parenting.  Breast not bottle,  Natural not Caesar, Don't work/ work,  No sugar,  No oysters, No Fun.

I love both my mothers' group and my recently parented friends, along with a few blogs and twitterers.  We share our mistakes but we are gentle on each other and, importantly, we ask for help. We know the bottom line is;  whatever works and whatever works for your child is the right answer: although it takes a few mistakes to get there.